It seems to me that we often relate to our emotional selves in the same way we do our cars–we see ourselves as getting bashed up and dented in our interactions. Then, unlike the way we treat our cars after a collision, we let the damage remain.
Can you imagine having a bashed in fender and weeping over the loss day after day instead of getting the insurance company on the job to fix it? That is exactly what we do when we admire the wounds relationships inevitably cause and impress ourselves with what a terrible loss we have suffered.
“I’ll never get over this” successfully stops our inborn ability to heal. And the wonderful thing about our inborn ability to heal is that we do not have to understand how it works. We just have to let it.
The activation process for healing, regardless of how deep and complicated we see ourselves to be, is mindlessly simple. Make two statements:
- I know how to heal.
- I let myself heal.
Then, let it go. Do this every time your thoughts head back to feelings of woundedness. Say them with love and conviction.
You absolutely, in your core, know how to heal.